When my husband and I were engaged we decided to go to a marriage prep institute class together. One of the topics was protecting your marriage from infidelity. Something that stood out to me from that less was an example from out teacher. Our teacher told us that her husband and her have decoded on boundaries together that they are both comfortable with when it comes to interacting with others. One thing she mentioned that they do is never put yourself in a situation that infidelity could take place or even give the appearance of one. For example, she had a very busy career but she would never take a lunch meeting with just herself and another man. She always made it a point that at least one other person was there. Not that she thought that she or the other person would cheat but to not even get the impression that something else was our could be going on. Another example she gave was that her husband would not take a picture next to another women unless his wife was standing on the other side of him.
I think it is important to make clear boundaries together in your marriage. This gives the opportunity for you to both express what you are and aren't comfortable with and to know the other persons expectations so you do not make them uncomfortable.
The reading talked about an experience of someone realizing that she made strict commitment to herself and the Lord that she would not share her heart with anyone but her husband and Him. I think this is SO important. Deep and personal thoughts or experiences should stay within the bonds of marriage. I believe this will created and keep trust in your marriage.
Overall, I think it is important to communicate with a respect your spouse. Respect the other enough to have those conversations and respect their wishes. I think it could be beneficial to check in every now and then to make sure you are both comfortable with and respecting the boundaries you set together.
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