I believe little actions go a long way, especially in relationships. Gottman teaches that turning toward your spouse can help connect your relationship. I am 100% behind this principle! I think the key to turning towards your spouse is doing so with true intent and a soften heart.
When I do things for my husband out of bitterness it builds tension in our relationship. When I do things for my husband with a service filled heart it makes me want to continue to do think for him because I love him. I am happy to do things because I know it makes him happy.
When he turns towards me it makes me feel so loved. I feel understood and heard when my husband does "the little things". It makes me feel as though he does really care to put effort into things he knows will make me happy. There is a show that I love and even though it is not my husband's favorite he watches it with my every week because he knows how much I love it. He shows interest and it makes me feel so valued.
Turning towards your spouse is important no matter what stage in the relationship you are in. When you choice to acknowledge your partner it builds trust, emotional connection and passion. When choosing your partner it will help contribute to a long lasting relationship. There are going to be ups and downs in every relationship. Finding ways to turn towards each other will help better the relationship. During those rough times I think there are two key elements to help. 1. communication with your spouse. Share how you are feeling instead of holding it all in. Come up with ideas together of ways to unit your relationship. 2. Prayer. Pray for your relationship both together and separately. Ask the Lord for help and guidance. Come prepared with a softened heart. Ready to listen and learn.
My husband loves shooting. I love going with him and seeing how happy he is doing it!
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