My parents have been married 29 years and have been great example to me of what love and commitment looks like. I stayed in this bubble not knowing much about divorce and thinking that everyone had what my parents have. Of course my parents have their differences but they work through them together. I didn't really consider what other people may have experienced themselves or in their childhood until my sister in law came around.
My brother started dating this wonderful girl. We all adored her and they were perfect for each other! As time went on the more and more they would discuss marriage. One day she opened up to my family about her fear of marriage.
Fear of marriage? Why would someone be fearful of marriage? Those were just a few questions that popped into my head when she first starting talking. I dreamed of marriage and what mine would be like my whole life. I wanted what my parents have. She expressed how marriage was intimidating to her because everyone in her life hasn't had a successful marriage. All she knew was failed relationships. She didn't even know what a healthy relationship looked like.
She later expressed the more time she spent with my family the more she could see herself having a successful relationship because she saw that my parents could do it. She saw what it took to have a successful relationship and that is something she now wanted.
After this experience of hearing how she felt I realized how much our parents relationship effected me which in turn now makes me consider my relationship with my husband.
I have been married just short of a year so of course there is still a lot to learn, but I am thankful that I was able to grow up with the example of a healthy relationship. I feel that has helped me in my own relationship with how I treat my husband and how we treasure our marriage. I hope that we can continue to make choices together that will be a good example for our future children.
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